Being Stereo Type Is what Being Ethical Was (Part 1)

There was a time when wearing skirts was not considered good in 80% of the society. Even kids wearing skirts and frocks, used to be informed and educated by their adults (like aunts, grandmas and other neighbors as well) to avoid wearing clothes which show the body parts – the skin. Back in those days, we (at least most of US) were proud to be associated with a CULTURE which used to be the Traditional Clothing for every individual of any age.

Back in those days (not talking about ages ago – but in 90’s and even late 80’s) there used to be some senses alive, amongst people. Here things might get twisted for those who have simply LOST IT! Few things like adopting everything from the Street were neither a GENTLEMAN’s thing nor an ELITE and ELEGANT Woman’s act.

There are multiple kinds of individuals who have their own perceptions and point of views, but on the whole the VIEWS lack in the points (its mostly the point which they want to emphasize – right or wrong has nothing to do with that).

There is a contemporary meaning of being Stereo-type, as per my observation – in today’s life. My thoughts and observations might be considered as over-statements, talibanization or even a narrow minded approach, but in reality, as per my discussion with individuals from different age brackets, from different localities and from different statuses – I wanted to bring it out, for the rest to comment on that – with complete freedom (here freedom is expression of thought with mature and educated mind not “FREE-DOMINATION” to impose only one thing.) 

So just think about the following facts:

1.   How many guys want their sisters and mothers to be eyed by other guys – from head to toe?

Is there anyone?

2.  How many sisters want their brothers to be known as Casanovas or Boy Toys?

3.  How many fathers would appreciate their daughters to move around with guys they do not know about (especially from which family they belong?)

4.    How many husbands want their wives to be catered by the attention of their friends and official colleagues?

I don’t think anyone would ever even dream about that! (Personal perception – can differ from others way of thinking)

Why do brothers allow their sisters to wear such dresses on which they themselves will hit on any other girls – if she would have worn that?

Why don’t girls prefer to walk to the market of bus stops after wearing particular kinds of clothes and prefer to go by personal conveyance?
 

Do they have any guilt or fear? If they say people watch them “so who is inviting them to watch?”

Why do fathers and brothers buy the “ALL NIGHT FREE PACKAGES” for their sisters and daughters – are they really that insane – and living in “SATYA-YUG” that is “ERA of TRUTH”?

Why don’t parents visit the universities, colleges and schools anymore to know the reputation of their kids? They definitely are busy enough in their own hassles that they overlook the fact that for whom they are embracing all the hardships have taken a somewhat wrong path in their lives.

Most of the individuals call such things “Experience” and “personality building” and even “confidence gaining activities” – REALLY?

For them I only have to say “Smoking, Boozing, Child Molestation and Incest etc are also experiences – are you ready to try them all?”

Bitter – hunh?

I heard a father saying “I need daughters not MODELS walking around in my house”

I heard a brother saying (in anger) “I wish I could treat my kid sister the way she really deserves)

I heard a sister saying “I wish brother to get out of the trap of - - -”

Haven’t you heard or thought about it at all?

This thing never crossed your mind?

By stating all these facts am not trying to preach that every woman should take Abaya or does not talk with any guy, or any guy must never talk to a girl and never make a pass (after all yester year’s successful love marriages must have been initiated by making a pass. And those individuals are proud parents of today’s youth as well as grandparents of today’s infants).

What I am trying to say is that there has to respect, love, dedication and sincerity in any relationship – but not time-pass activity, lust and infatuation etc.

Why don’t we appreciate and regard the fact that while driving in front of Mosques, Churches, Temples, Schools and Houses it’s better to lower down the volume of your music player? Its ETHICAL for me – but for most its being stereotype.

I am not sure, whether people tried to get my point of view or not. But I do want most of us to think on few questions, which have been stated here.

Bless you all – keep smiling – Try to observe and weigh.

We Need Guides Today – Not Imposers

It is really a matter of luck to meet someone who is blessed with the experience, expertise and great knowledge from different phases of life, along with the different sectors exposed. In today’s life when on the one hand it is commonly said by almost all the Gurus that “it is good to share experiences” whereas on the contrary it has been observed that people are so busy to spare time for their families and friends – who could ever think for the exchange of thoughts and experiences? Any ways I still feel myself lucky to meet someone who was and still is a worth meeting person.

Last week I happened to meet this great person, who is a combination of repute, regard, jovial charms and very accurate in finding the Lacuna in the society as well as in the mind set of our corporate cultures. While we were sitting together, we discussed many things from cultures to trends and from codes of army to civil trends and life styles. He shared his vast experiences with me – I am thankful to him for his precious time and knowledge which he imparted with me. We then discussed about the current scenario of our countries’ employment policies. I agreed to all his approaches, he had an absolute spot analysis on the subject.

In our corporate culture, we often come across to a similar statement that is “For the jobs, only those can apply who are either IBA graduates or LUMS graduates – rest please don’t bother to drop your CVs” – Well to be honest I, in fact We, do not have any grudges against the mentioned universities but just a thought crosses our minds. “Does All the Talent Belong To Only Top Notch Universities?” What about those countless girls and guys who are striving hard to achieve their education and working simultaneously to accomplish their dreams of becoming SOMEONE from NO-ONE? Give a thought!

We are not of the view that every Tom, Dick and Harry is included in this but those who are hard working, dedicated and focused in life; they do need a chance to prove themselves. In today’s world we even do not care to look at the résumés of those candidates who do not belong to top 3 Universities. Does it mean that rest of the institutions are not producing any talent or the students of the rest of the universities are not capable to face the challenges in the life? – We need to have a Reality Check.

As per our discussion, we also concluded that, in this age we lack people with vision. We may have highly qualified people around us, but we are not sure whether they are EDUCATED or not. Qualification and Education are two different streams; we usually count them as ONE. Today we need Guides who can provide pure guidance rather than those individuals who impose their thoughts and observations on budding talents – without knowing their capabilities. Everyone wants to be considered as the most knowledgeable and accurate person – and that is why he thinks that whatever decision which he has made does not need any alternative verification or opinion. That is what mostly happens to the youth when they are forced by their seniors, teachers, parents and colleagues etc to select any particular profession or subjects – without providing them a vision but a “quick brisk walk” towards the goal, without analyzing whether they will be able to make it up to the end or exhaust themselves before reaching to the target.

It is high time to think LOGICALLY rather than so called “practically”. I would definitely like to thank Mr. M. Baseer Khan to broadening my visions and giving me his precious time – He had been associated with the Pakistan Army and over a decade he has also been exposed to the corporate sector. There were certain other topics which were shared and discussed, which soon I will be sharing with my readers.

Hope it would have knocked the minds of my readers – for once at least.
Keep thinking before implementing!