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10 Steps That Can Lead To Breakup - Part 2

As Promised! I am back with more pointers to save you guys from being dumped by your sweetie pies! The strangest thing is that, after posting “10 Steps That Can Lead to Break-Up – Part 1” I did not hear much from guys, but women (oops! Girls) contacted me through messages and agreed to some points. Hats-off to those girls who accepted the facts! I really admire the way you all are comfortable with yourselves and your attitudes. With the passage of time, I have come across some more pointers which can help a man to be shielded from the slash of the sword, named breakup. Following are some more lifesavers.

1. You Don’t Like Her Parents? Never Breathe a Word!

What if she develops an allergy for your parents? It’s the same way. Try to respect her parents even if you don’t feel respecting them. None of the couples is perfect! Is yours? Or will it remain the way it currently is? So, the bottom-line is no matter how pain they are or can be in the most private parts, bear a smile on your face (at least TRY) and keep silence in the air because at times clashes of opinions with her parents can ignite her volcanic engine. 

2. Never Flirt With other Women In front of Her

Men will be men! They won’t stop in admiring, appreciating and cheating (if provided in one way or the other). We all know it is hard to not to stare back to that gorgeous woman with a tag “Oh! Watch me”. And if she by any means is talking with you in front of your spouse, be very choosy in using the words, as you won’t stop flirting and your spouse won’t stop spying! If she can be questionable to the fact that your eyes landed on another woman’s assets, just imagine what can be her response when you will actually get flirtatious with her!

3. Discontinue going out with your friends too often

It has been seen that guys don’t usually change – they stay the way they are. I also hear it a lot to which I always say “Perfection is Contact”. Anyways, most of us are outgoing with our friends and like to make plans to visit places and enjoy together. If you keep on continuing these activities of yours be sure that soon your spouse will also make a “girls’ night out” plan and always remember, you are not the only one who is good with distracting and admiring women when out with your friends! Competition is in the air! 

4. Are you trying to explain her “Why you have Porn / Vulgar Stuff in your Laptop”?

If, (God Forbid), she checks out your personal folder named as “Software Files” and asks you about the stuff that it has never try to explain in detail the real fact! Details will give her more questions to ask which may lead to quite unusual situation. Admit the fact, that you are a dog, apologize and delete the folder. Later, start saving the files in some other folder or with other names and extensions! Men won’t change! Just like women can not change their shopping habits and gossiping craze!

5. She Comes First Before Your Mom

If you are in a catch 22 situation and want an opinion, never disclose that you have already asked from your mom about what to do! Don’t let her get angry by making her realize that she is a 2^nd person in your life! She should always come first!

6. Praise Her More Than Her Outfit

No matter what she wears, no matter how ridiculous she looks in the name of “Fashion” or “Style Statement” just use 3 words! “You Look Fantastic”

7. Never Use her Shower Products

She is very peculiar about her belongings and shower products are her essentials. The treasure with which she smells, looks and feels good!

8. Stop Watching TV Shows Featuring Hot Girls

For a woman, if video games, magazines and laptops can be competitions then keeping the same theory in mind how can you possibly digest that she will allow you to watch a program that features hot girls with some steamy and revealing outfits. I have stopped watching Californication – and she have no idea how much I miss Hank Moody!

9. Stay the way you are in short DON’T GET FAT

She agreed to be with you or chose you mainly because of the way you looked back then. If you want her to feel the same thing throughout, stay in shape. Don’t get expanded.

10. Video Games with Her? Insane?

If you think that she will accompany you in playing a play station or X-Box with you, you sure are in no need of a spouse then. She can never stand the reality that you are ignoring her and getting all indulged and excited in playing video games and expressing your emotions loudly for that.

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10 Steps That Can Lead To Breakup - Part 1

Treating a woman as per her expectations is a “Myth”. No one knows what a woman wants. Within last few years, during my interactions with students, peers and colleagues (both males and females) I learned few pointers on the basis of which most of the guys were either dumped or slapped by their spouses. Following are the main outcomes of an exhilarating research! Enjoy and save yourself from committing them!

1. There are times when a Woman does not want Equality!

There are times when a woman demands for equality in life but if you are on date with a woman, it is never a good idea to let her enjoy the right of equality, by letting her pay her bill or half of the bill. If you are planning to break the tradition be prepared for the back firing, it can be horrible.

2. Never Drift your Mind When She Speaks

Pay attention to even the minute details of her “fluffy the kitten”, she can check your presence of mind by asking you questions regarding the color of Fluffy’s milk pot. Keep the track of the keywords.

3. Do you really want to move in together?

Never confront the idea of moving in with here until you are completely ok with letting her know about your whereabouts, cleaning and tidying the kitchen and cooking dinner for her on week days and rest of the days taking her out on dinners.

4. Never Trust on chat up lines

Never trust on the corny “Come-ons” blurted by women, they are either lies or rare. Never endanger your dignity.

5. Do you wish to watch your favorite sports match?

If you want to invite her to watch sports match with her, beware, this can lead to something very dangerous. You may end up your match with her. Remember one thing, what you love, she doesn’t.

6. Do you leave your toilet seat up?

It is definitely not a cliché, such acts of simplicity can drive women crazy. 

7. Never Bombard her with messages

A woman always enjoys to be urged and wanted by her man, but if the same man crosses the limit (which is never described by her) she is ready to come up with a simple line i.e. “We need time”. This can be an outcome of multiple SMSes or FB messages. So let her enjoy her space.

8. Pointing out Girls

Never share the details about your “Ex”, as it might fire up unwanted things in your relationship. Some secrets are worth not disclosing.

9. Sharing Password? Really?

Never on earth reveal your password in front of her. The spying instincts are part and parcel of every woman – so let her say things like, you don’t trust her or other emotional lines. If it really itches you then create a new account and share the password of that.

10. In case you love the physique of Deepika Padukone

Never ever share the secret thoughts that you have for Deepika or any other celebrity because the moment you will share, you might get to know the reality of your own personality and how you can never be compared with the ideal she had in her mind since adolescence.

These are the few points on the basis of which you can turn things down and can even stamp a breakup, so try to keep these in your mind before reacting in any of the mentioned situations.

Soon I will disclose more of the pointers to save you from getting dumped or slapped! Till then, play safe and keep your cool.

Fly High With the Wings of Love

There are many blossoming hearts which you can find around you. Whether they are kids, youngsters adults or senior citizens, their hearts beat for their loved ones. There was a time when life was simple and free from hassles but now technology has gifted us so many things which can do an hours’ work within few minutes, but taken away the “time” from us. Be it a student or a professional no one has time for their friends, family members and loved ones. Back in those days when life was simpler even a rose could have made the expressions clear to other person but nowadays buying an iPhone or Louis Vuitton’s bag can not guarantee that the girl of your dreams will say a “Yes” or not.

Many people consider that celebrating Valentine’s Day is a waste, as per them they do not need just one day to show and celebrate their love with their loved ones. But think for a moment, when was the last time you appreciated or praised your loved one? When was the last time you had a passionate and soft time with your partner? I am sure you might be able to recall few moments but not a complete day, where you tried to bring a series of smiles to your partner’s face. We all know that life is much demanding nowadays and it is not practical to keep living the role of college sweat-hearts. But if you try to just wake up early one morning and before going to office just say any line like; “I will be worried about you, so I have arranged a bodyguard to look after you whole day” then hand her over a stuff toy or teddy bear. I am sure, the look on her face will enlighten you about how she will feel.

If you are a student with not enough money then you can easily buy 9 real red roses along with one artificial one. Attach a card that says “I will love you until the last rose fades”. On the contrary if you even do not have enough cash to get her flowers then you can also wrap a mirror in gift paper and present her that, on which you better write “In this mirror you will see the image of the most beautiful woman in the world”

For instance if you are a newly wedded wife or in fact any wife, whose husband have left for office – make sure the moment he has left for office, e-mail him a simple note “Miss you already” that he will read the moment he will log on to his computer. You can also scan or photocopy the image of your hand and before sending it to your partner write “Do you wanna hold hands?” over it. One of the most important and heart melting acts which women love is very simple – cook something for them, either late at night or early in the morning. Serve her with complete protocol. You will be amazed to see the after effects.

Expressing love is not difficult and at times not easy as well. All you need to do is to be truthful to yourself. If you feel anything express it. If you want to thank your partner – then let the words flow. Simple deeds done are better than bigger ones planned.

Stay happy – keep losing yourself in love (preferably with same person) again and again. Love grows and strengthens with time and by sharing different experiences. So keep experimenting and keep holding your partner’s hands.

Let love be pure and fine. Accept and announce everyday that you love someone, let people know if you are professional you are best amongst the lot and if you are a lover you are a blessing for your partner.

Being Stereo Type Is what Being Ethical Was (Part 1)

There was a time when wearing skirts was not considered good in 80% of the society. Even kids wearing skirts and frocks, used to be informed and educated by their adults (like aunts, grandmas and other neighbors as well) to avoid wearing clothes which show the body parts – the skin. Back in those days, we (at least most of US) were proud to be associated with a CULTURE which used to be the Traditional Clothing for every individual of any age.

Back in those days (not talking about ages ago – but in 90’s and even late 80’s) there used to be some senses alive, amongst people. Here things might get twisted for those who have simply LOST IT! Few things like adopting everything from the Street were neither a GENTLEMAN’s thing nor an ELITE and ELEGANT Woman’s act.

There are multiple kinds of individuals who have their own perceptions and point of views, but on the whole the VIEWS lack in the points (its mostly the point which they want to emphasize – right or wrong has nothing to do with that).

There is a contemporary meaning of being Stereo-type, as per my observation – in today’s life. My thoughts and observations might be considered as over-statements, talibanization or even a narrow minded approach, but in reality, as per my discussion with individuals from different age brackets, from different localities and from different statuses – I wanted to bring it out, for the rest to comment on that – with complete freedom (here freedom is expression of thought with mature and educated mind not “FREE-DOMINATION” to impose only one thing.) 

So just think about the following facts:

1.   How many guys want their sisters and mothers to be eyed by other guys – from head to toe?

Is there anyone?

2.  How many sisters want their brothers to be known as Casanovas or Boy Toys?

3.  How many fathers would appreciate their daughters to move around with guys they do not know about (especially from which family they belong?)

4.    How many husbands want their wives to be catered by the attention of their friends and official colleagues?

I don’t think anyone would ever even dream about that! (Personal perception – can differ from others way of thinking)

Why do brothers allow their sisters to wear such dresses on which they themselves will hit on any other girls – if she would have worn that?

Why don’t girls prefer to walk to the market of bus stops after wearing particular kinds of clothes and prefer to go by personal conveyance?
 

Do they have any guilt or fear? If they say people watch them “so who is inviting them to watch?”

Why do fathers and brothers buy the “ALL NIGHT FREE PACKAGES” for their sisters and daughters – are they really that insane – and living in “SATYA-YUG” that is “ERA of TRUTH”?

Why don’t parents visit the universities, colleges and schools anymore to know the reputation of their kids? They definitely are busy enough in their own hassles that they overlook the fact that for whom they are embracing all the hardships have taken a somewhat wrong path in their lives.

Most of the individuals call such things “Experience” and “personality building” and even “confidence gaining activities” – REALLY?

For them I only have to say “Smoking, Boozing, Child Molestation and Incest etc are also experiences – are you ready to try them all?”

Bitter – hunh?

I heard a father saying “I need daughters not MODELS walking around in my house”

I heard a brother saying (in anger) “I wish I could treat my kid sister the way she really deserves)

I heard a sister saying “I wish brother to get out of the trap of - - -”

Haven’t you heard or thought about it at all?

This thing never crossed your mind?

By stating all these facts am not trying to preach that every woman should take Abaya or does not talk with any guy, or any guy must never talk to a girl and never make a pass (after all yester year’s successful love marriages must have been initiated by making a pass. And those individuals are proud parents of today’s youth as well as grandparents of today’s infants).

What I am trying to say is that there has to respect, love, dedication and sincerity in any relationship – but not time-pass activity, lust and infatuation etc.

Why don’t we appreciate and regard the fact that while driving in front of Mosques, Churches, Temples, Schools and Houses it’s better to lower down the volume of your music player? Its ETHICAL for me – but for most its being stereotype.

I am not sure, whether people tried to get my point of view or not. But I do want most of us to think on few questions, which have been stated here.

Bless you all – keep smiling – Try to observe and weigh.

And they say its Difficult to Blossom Roses of Love in One’s Heart!

And they say its Difficult to Blossom Roses of Love in One’s Heart!

It is rightly said that life is very short – so don’t waste it in arguing, fighting and hating others. The best thing is to shower smiles on the faces of those who are in one way or the other associated with you. Not particularly only Mom, Dad, Bro, Sis or Friends, but also those who accidentally meet you in seminars, restaurants, rest-rooms, shops and such other countless places. I know, most people would now be thinking that those other people might think us fool or immature to do such things to bring smile on their faces. But think again! Does it really matter? After all, you will be able to win a smile – just because of your own effort. It counts trust me. Where are all the lessons of Humanities and “Being Good and Happy Go Lucky”? Are they only left for the books or some editions of Reader’s Digests?

Its time to think differently! Everyone is worried for his or her own hassles. Don/t you like to swim against the tides? Remember when you usually say in front of your friends by pumping up your chests “I am not usual – Am different”. This is what DIFFERENT PEOPLE DO. They bring the best day out of the most hectic one!

There are more than many ways to brighten the days of your loved ones – not particularly wives or girlfriends and vice versa. You can buy a domain name of your brother’s or sister’s name. (These days they are really affordable). Create a simple yet elegant web page after all “Word Press” and other agents are here to help you out. Write a poem or quotation that best describes your relation with him or her and ask them to visit the web link. It will have a huge effect – mark my words. Its simple and cute!

For your mother the easiest thing is to wrap a mirror in the gift paper with a note “All my strength is because of you – May you always shine to brighten up my life with your care and love”. Mothers deserve the best undoubtedly. And to all ladies keep that in mind that only that man can keep his woman like a Princess who is grown up by a Queen.

Now this might sound and look kinda weird to most, but I have practiced it personally and it works in almost all the situations. Whether you are in office, being new or experienced, in a mall or movie theatre all you need to do is to say 2 words “Nice Outfit” or “Nice Color” with a decent and simple smile – and no further expectation to start a communication (strictly) – you will see that the lips of both the boys and girls will curve upward – at places slightly and at others a bit more.

Finally the best way to bring a simple smile on your boss’s face is a simple statement “After all I am trained by you – how could I be misguided in any execution”. Try to give credits to others, everyone knows that you have performed the task, but the kind of happiness and smile which you give to others is unmatched.

You must be thinking that these thoughts and examples are about “smile” not “Love” but in exchange with the SMILE, what you will get is different kinds of LOVE. They could be brotherly, Fatherly, Humanly and as well as Lover“ly”.

Life is short – make the most of it by spreading love, smile and care. You are the only one who can make it possible.

The Unconventional “Better-Half” – A Man’s Perspective

We do know that we have a complete hold of our lives until we tie knots with someone, who promises, oaths and guarantees to be our companion of life time (at times LIE of a TIME) – to be there in thick and thin (what I love to call it as THICKLY THIN and THINLY THICK). As the life starts with this unmatched beauty, the beasts like us find it mesmerizing and enchanting. For a matter of fact it is how life is – you meet a person who is completely unknown to you and you start not just only to live with her and love and care for her too. Better say the beast transforms into ummm… somewhat Priest! Who provides almost every kind of services to his “MADAM”, cares for her, leads her in almost every step and stand there for her no matter how weak his knees get, in the presence of any other woman.

THE OLD “BUTLER-HALF”

I still remember my grandmother giving hints and tips to my female cousins how to win the hearts of their husbands and going to be ones. The main crux used to be how to cook swadisht (tasty) cuisines. No wonder they did win the hearts of their hubbies, but most of those hubbies are now suffering from heart diseases and soon it is expected that their heart decease (due to the over flow of their “butler-halves” love in the form of thick, spicy and oily curry in their veins and arteries). No second thought to the fact that these better halves are extremely good in kitchen highly smart in running the day to day house hold chores and activities.

THE EVER GREEN “BITTER-HALF”

Who says nightmare ends when you open your eyes? There are countless who still have to live with the same… in the very same territory. Most of the men are horrified and petrified though such a partner. But due to their wisdom or better say fear, they don’t take the bold step throughout their lives.  They are often known as violent, short tempered, blunt and unsophisticated by their partners. To which I say – they are simply EXPRESSIVE. They know when to throw which ball to fly one’s wicket. Yes they are nagging at times, but who isn’t? Think about your boss for a moment! About the customer who wants cent percent result of the product he purchased from you! and the land-lord of yours… If you can wear a lovely smile in front of them in their worst moods, why can’t you tolerate this creature who happened to be your one full half?J Never go on the packaging un-wrap her to be surprised. She has a lot of love care and respect for you! Trust me, it’s just the depression and frustration she faces and feels every day – remember she used to have the same sugar coated finger, which you wanted to lick always! Just give her a softer time, remind her the old days, treat her well, the way you used to… and feel the magic.

THE ULTIMATE “BUTTER-HALF”

Well this one is my favorite, she is the one who is shy, vibrant, and lovely, she has calculated moves to captivate and enchant. She knows how to dazzle. She gives her hubby all the thrills along with the chills. My canvas might get bigger on her account, but she is worth praising. She tries to obey and knows how to command also. She is the wisest amongst all; she does feel like the soft breeze at the sea-shore but she actually has a storm within her. All the men are willing to bow their heads and minds in front of her. She is – to them – a complete package of charm, beauty, obedience and thrill. Men are usually happy with such wives, but as they grow old and mature, they want their wives to grow too.

After all the discussions and jokes apart, I think a Man must always stand by the side of his woman. Give her due respect and nurture her. He must give her his best shot of love, gentleness, admiration, regard, commitment and softness. One who protects, safe guards and provides the rights of his woman definitely deserves to be known as a REAL MAN.