10 Steps That Can Lead To Breakup - Part 2

As Promised! I am back with more pointers to save you guys from being dumped by your sweetie pies! The strangest thing is that, after posting “10 Steps That Can Lead to Break-Up – Part 1” I did not hear much from guys, but women (oops! Girls) contacted me through messages and agreed to some points. Hats-off to those girls who accepted the facts! I really admire the way you all are comfortable with yourselves and your attitudes. With the passage of time, I have come across some more pointers which can help a man to be shielded from the slash of the sword, named breakup. Following are some more lifesavers.

1. You Don’t Like Her Parents? Never Breathe a Word!

What if she develops an allergy for your parents? It’s the same way. Try to respect her parents even if you don’t feel respecting them. None of the couples is perfect! Is yours? Or will it remain the way it currently is? So, the bottom-line is no matter how pain they are or can be in the most private parts, bear a smile on your face (at least TRY) and keep silence in the air because at times clashes of opinions with her parents can ignite her volcanic engine. 

2. Never Flirt With other Women In front of Her

Men will be men! They won’t stop in admiring, appreciating and cheating (if provided in one way or the other). We all know it is hard to not to stare back to that gorgeous woman with a tag “Oh! Watch me”. And if she by any means is talking with you in front of your spouse, be very choosy in using the words, as you won’t stop flirting and your spouse won’t stop spying! If she can be questionable to the fact that your eyes landed on another woman’s assets, just imagine what can be her response when you will actually get flirtatious with her!

3. Discontinue going out with your friends too often

It has been seen that guys don’t usually change – they stay the way they are. I also hear it a lot to which I always say “Perfection is Contact”. Anyways, most of us are outgoing with our friends and like to make plans to visit places and enjoy together. If you keep on continuing these activities of yours be sure that soon your spouse will also make a “girls’ night out” plan and always remember, you are not the only one who is good with distracting and admiring women when out with your friends! Competition is in the air! 

4. Are you trying to explain her “Why you have Porn / Vulgar Stuff in your Laptop”?

If, (God Forbid), she checks out your personal folder named as “Software Files” and asks you about the stuff that it has never try to explain in detail the real fact! Details will give her more questions to ask which may lead to quite unusual situation. Admit the fact, that you are a dog, apologize and delete the folder. Later, start saving the files in some other folder or with other names and extensions! Men won’t change! Just like women can not change their shopping habits and gossiping craze!

5. She Comes First Before Your Mom

If you are in a catch 22 situation and want an opinion, never disclose that you have already asked from your mom about what to do! Don’t let her get angry by making her realize that she is a 2^nd person in your life! She should always come first!

6. Praise Her More Than Her Outfit

No matter what she wears, no matter how ridiculous she looks in the name of “Fashion” or “Style Statement” just use 3 words! “You Look Fantastic”

7. Never Use her Shower Products

She is very peculiar about her belongings and shower products are her essentials. The treasure with which she smells, looks and feels good!

8. Stop Watching TV Shows Featuring Hot Girls

For a woman, if video games, magazines and laptops can be competitions then keeping the same theory in mind how can you possibly digest that she will allow you to watch a program that features hot girls with some steamy and revealing outfits. I have stopped watching Californication – and she have no idea how much I miss Hank Moody!

9. Stay the way you are in short DON’T GET FAT

She agreed to be with you or chose you mainly because of the way you looked back then. If you want her to feel the same thing throughout, stay in shape. Don’t get expanded.

10. Video Games with Her? Insane?

If you think that she will accompany you in playing a play station or X-Box with you, you sure are in no need of a spouse then. She can never stand the reality that you are ignoring her and getting all indulged and excited in playing video games and expressing your emotions loudly for that.

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10 Steps That Can Lead To Breakup - Part 1

Treating a woman as per her expectations is a “Myth”. No one knows what a woman wants. Within last few years, during my interactions with students, peers and colleagues (both males and females) I learned few pointers on the basis of which most of the guys were either dumped or slapped by their spouses. Following are the main outcomes of an exhilarating research! Enjoy and save yourself from committing them!

1. There are times when a Woman does not want Equality!

There are times when a woman demands for equality in life but if you are on date with a woman, it is never a good idea to let her enjoy the right of equality, by letting her pay her bill or half of the bill. If you are planning to break the tradition be prepared for the back firing, it can be horrible.

2. Never Drift your Mind When She Speaks

Pay attention to even the minute details of her “fluffy the kitten”, she can check your presence of mind by asking you questions regarding the color of Fluffy’s milk pot. Keep the track of the keywords.

3. Do you really want to move in together?

Never confront the idea of moving in with here until you are completely ok with letting her know about your whereabouts, cleaning and tidying the kitchen and cooking dinner for her on week days and rest of the days taking her out on dinners.

4. Never Trust on chat up lines

Never trust on the corny “Come-ons” blurted by women, they are either lies or rare. Never endanger your dignity.

5. Do you wish to watch your favorite sports match?

If you want to invite her to watch sports match with her, beware, this can lead to something very dangerous. You may end up your match with her. Remember one thing, what you love, she doesn’t.

6. Do you leave your toilet seat up?

It is definitely not a cliché, such acts of simplicity can drive women crazy. 

7. Never Bombard her with messages

A woman always enjoys to be urged and wanted by her man, but if the same man crosses the limit (which is never described by her) she is ready to come up with a simple line i.e. “We need time”. This can be an outcome of multiple SMSes or FB messages. So let her enjoy her space.

8. Pointing out Girls

Never share the details about your “Ex”, as it might fire up unwanted things in your relationship. Some secrets are worth not disclosing.

9. Sharing Password? Really?

Never on earth reveal your password in front of her. The spying instincts are part and parcel of every woman – so let her say things like, you don’t trust her or other emotional lines. If it really itches you then create a new account and share the password of that.

10. In case you love the physique of Deepika Padukone

Never ever share the secret thoughts that you have for Deepika or any other celebrity because the moment you will share, you might get to know the reality of your own personality and how you can never be compared with the ideal she had in her mind since adolescence.

These are the few points on the basis of which you can turn things down and can even stamp a breakup, so try to keep these in your mind before reacting in any of the mentioned situations.

Soon I will disclose more of the pointers to save you from getting dumped or slapped! Till then, play safe and keep your cool.

“Women” – Sexy – Part 1

(Sufficiently Enchanting, Xtraordinarily Yappy)

Everyone knows that women are the most unpredictable creatures. They can treat you the way they want to. If they know how to treat you like a king they also know how to treat you like rags. So, those individuals who think that they know the psychology of women are completely insane. The interesting thing is that even women don’t know themselves. Some think that they are unpredictable; some believe that they have multiple personalities but the bottom line is that they are confused. How? Well, most of the women know that they want to marry a guy who is good looking, handsome, charming, and loyal and XYZ but when they meet the particular kind of guy they suddenly start thinking of several other qualities that they want in their guy. They would then want value added traits in the guy.

Most of the men think that women have ideals and they want to live in an imaginative world. Well true, they definitely live in an imaginary world that’s why they always don’t believe (in fact they even don’t listen to it) if any one points out their mistakes. To them they can never commit a mistake; it is always a misunderstanding or confusion for them. They act as if they are so naïve, so sweet and so harmless.

According to a woman her ideal man (or going to be husband) should lend a hand if he sees that his wife needs his help, well the reality is, before any man can lend his hand or think about it, his woman clutches his neck with her hands tightly, forgetting that this can offer him a permanent ticket to heaven-land. At that particular moment she thinks (mostly) about herself getting out of the trouble! And what happens to her husband can be explained as his hard/bad luck.

On the other hand there are also women who think that He (hubby dear) should say some words of comfort if he feels that she is complaining of tiredness, weariness or boredom – and if he says anything to comfort her, he gets to listen things like “Can’t you see am tense?”, “Oh please be serious when will you take life seriously?”, “Is it a matter of fun for you?” and “You will never understand me”. What must a guy do in such a situation?

There are also women who think that their Mr. Right should make them feel that they are living with strong, generous, tolerant husbands who will protect them and care for them, one who cares about her and will meet all her legitimate needs whether he is capable or not. After sometime, the trait of “strong man” turns into “insensitivity” , “generosity” turns into “he is a sissy”, “tolerance” turns into the factor that is equivalent to boredom and protectiveness turns into “spying and non-trustworthiness” in the eyes of the women.

The whole scenario turns into a funny situation and a man when tries to do something different to bring spice in his and his wife’s life then ultimate thing happens where she starts to suspect that he is cheating on her!

Women! Are not creatures, but science! Love them, care for them, guide them and support them, but never let them invade your privacy and thoughts! After all if they need space, so do men!

And TAMANNA BEGUM Dies after Spreading Smiles for Decades – What She Left for me are few Questions

There was a time when Pakistani Film Industry and not “Lollywood” was at its peak. People used to watch Pakistani movies all around the world. We had collaborations with Nepal, Bangladesh, Bangkok, China and India etc. Movies used to celebrate Silver, Golden and Platinum Jubilees. Cinemas used to be studded with audiences. In those days, there lived a performer, who was as innocent as a child in all her comic roles and who also had the potential to look cruel and unkind when she used to bag a vamp’s role. Tamanna Begum (late) had one of the strangest personalities that one can find in film industry; incorruptibility and mischievous sprite both at the same time were find in her. And she won her audience in both undoubtedly.

She started her career with Radio Pakistan then in mid-60’s she started theatre and later introduced to Pakistani Film Industry. The woman who performed and competed neck to neck and shoulder to shoulder, with one of the finest comedians of Pakistan ever produced LEHRI along with Rangeela and Munawwar Zareef. On the contrary when she was cast against Agha Talish, Adeeb and Alauddin who were and still are considered as volcano of high voltage dramatic scenes, she stood out with her bravura performance and impressed the audience. She acted with legends of Pakistani film stars like Muhammad Ali, Waheed Murad, Nadeem, Mustafa Qureshi and Shahid etc. and earned the title of legend herself.

She earned a lot of appreciation in comic roles, but I personally prefer her bitter roles as well – it used to take an instantaneous moment to abhor her, with those performances as she fits to the character just like a latex-glove in hand. I suppose this is the quality of a true performer. After the downfall of Pakistan’s film industry, or better put it as, after the transition of Pakistani Film Industry to “Lollywood” she adieu film industry and started to focus on TV dramas. From 1960 to 2012 the legend kept proving herself a true performer no matter what kind of roles she was bagged with. Her journey from Multan to Karachi and from 1960 – 2012 definitely had ups and downs – and only a strong headed and powerful woman like her could manage to travel on such path with consistency and élan.

As per the sources, prior to her demise, she was working for “Bubban House” (An Ever New Production). So, its not just Raj Kapoor or Moin Akhter who believed on the motto “The Show Must Go On” – Tamanna was in the same league of performers too. She was under treatment for 9+ months but government of Pakistan did not bother to take care of her, medically. Not even “Lollywood” cared to provide her any assistance and support. Is it not a shameful thing for a nation? Pakistan’s nation is not equal to few handfuls of individuals who have tenderness for others. To me Tamanna Begum left few questions, after spending a life full of success, pride and serving as a national artist (a national asset).

Questions include;

1. What is the use for working for your nation? At the end of the day every one’s life is busy and don’t have time for others.
2. What is the use of being patriotic? As patriotism does not provide treatment to an ailing patriotic. Money does.
3. Why do we teach live for others and care for others? Show me huge list of examples and not Cheepa, Edhi and such few others.
4. Do we have to wait for another Tamanna Begum to wake up?
5. Lets stop waiting for natural losses or unavoidable disasters to unite as a nation. Try to become a good individual on daily basis and find those people who are suffering from illnesses – of any kind.

Few Facts;

1. She spent 350,000/- PKR for treatment. Only for 9 days. She was admitted in Tabba Heart Hospital, Karachi.
2. She was then taken to SIUT, where she had free of cost treatment. I wish we have more of SUCH organizations.
3. How would a poor individual afford any treatment?

I wish Tamanna Begum’s soul rest in peace and may Almighty grant her mercy. Enough said!

Fly High With the Wings of Love

There are many blossoming hearts which you can find around you. Whether they are kids, youngsters adults or senior citizens, their hearts beat for their loved ones. There was a time when life was simple and free from hassles but now technology has gifted us so many things which can do an hours’ work within few minutes, but taken away the “time” from us. Be it a student or a professional no one has time for their friends, family members and loved ones. Back in those days when life was simpler even a rose could have made the expressions clear to other person but nowadays buying an iPhone or Louis Vuitton’s bag can not guarantee that the girl of your dreams will say a “Yes” or not.

Many people consider that celebrating Valentine’s Day is a waste, as per them they do not need just one day to show and celebrate their love with their loved ones. But think for a moment, when was the last time you appreciated or praised your loved one? When was the last time you had a passionate and soft time with your partner? I am sure you might be able to recall few moments but not a complete day, where you tried to bring a series of smiles to your partner’s face. We all know that life is much demanding nowadays and it is not practical to keep living the role of college sweat-hearts. But if you try to just wake up early one morning and before going to office just say any line like; “I will be worried about you, so I have arranged a bodyguard to look after you whole day” then hand her over a stuff toy or teddy bear. I am sure, the look on her face will enlighten you about how she will feel.

If you are a student with not enough money then you can easily buy 9 real red roses along with one artificial one. Attach a card that says “I will love you until the last rose fades”. On the contrary if you even do not have enough cash to get her flowers then you can also wrap a mirror in gift paper and present her that, on which you better write “In this mirror you will see the image of the most beautiful woman in the world”

For instance if you are a newly wedded wife or in fact any wife, whose husband have left for office – make sure the moment he has left for office, e-mail him a simple note “Miss you already” that he will read the moment he will log on to his computer. You can also scan or photocopy the image of your hand and before sending it to your partner write “Do you wanna hold hands?” over it. One of the most important and heart melting acts which women love is very simple – cook something for them, either late at night or early in the morning. Serve her with complete protocol. You will be amazed to see the after effects.

Expressing love is not difficult and at times not easy as well. All you need to do is to be truthful to yourself. If you feel anything express it. If you want to thank your partner – then let the words flow. Simple deeds done are better than bigger ones planned.

Stay happy – keep losing yourself in love (preferably with same person) again and again. Love grows and strengthens with time and by sharing different experiences. So keep experimenting and keep holding your partner’s hands.

Let love be pure and fine. Accept and announce everyday that you love someone, let people know if you are professional you are best amongst the lot and if you are a lover you are a blessing for your partner.

ISLAM WAS ONCE MY RELIGION – NOW ITS AN ADULTERATED RELIGION TO WHICH I BELONG

ISLAM WAS ONCE MY RELIGION – NOW ITS AN ADULTERATED RELIGION TO WHICH I BELONG

“Screw you! How dare you title something like that?” 

This must be the first reaction of many readers, who have taken the initiative to read this article. I definitely respect the religion, like many others, as this is the only thing that we can do because nowadays “understanding” has nothing to do with “respect”. We do not try to understand things but accept to respect them. Similarly we do not understand Islam but respect it. Have we asked to ourselves “Why do we respect any person, thought, ideology or religion?” and do we have any rational reasoning for the answer?

Anyways, I am sure that now everyone is very well aware of the much hyped act and aftermaths of Maya Khan’s Morning Show. She tried to raid on couples sitting in the parks and getting intimate with each others. Media, people, government and everyone else started to bite back! As if she stepped on their tails of grayness. People are talking about invasion of privacy and talking about different laws and psychological aftereffects on individuals. People are using statements like “Two wrongs can never make a right”. To all of those forgetful sons and daughters of Islam – the religion of 90% commentators on the subject let me put few things in front of you.

If you think it was an act of invading one’s privacy, so let few things be clear first, those individuals were not in any private place. Doing anything object-able in public place is neither ethical nor moral. What were people expecting “Maya Khan would video tape lip locking scenes – to prove her point right or show those as evident?” – which many of us must have seen back when we were in college or university. Be it Café Coffee De, Purple Haze, Safari Park, Hill Park or any other place, we can easily find such couples doing nasty things with one another.

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Another baseless point which based the whole argument and people tried to blindfold unaware Muslims included “Islam Does not allow invasion of privacy – it is an immoral act religiously”. To that I would say “I never knew that “Temple of Khajuraho” (Nauzubillah) belongs to Islam” – as only that allows intimacy publically. Have I made my point clear? Or there need to be more things discussed? Islam prohibits a woman to leave her home without covering herself to meet a Na-Mahram (not a legal relation). Islam does not allow “public displays of affections” which in common words mean “physical intimacy”. So if Islam does not allow all this, who the hell is saying and who the hell, believes on, such screwed up statements?

At point few people raised a question “What will happen to their parents; when they find out about their daughters getting publicized?” To that I would ask “Just because of the parental concerns will you not allow any thief or murderer to get punished publically?”

Most of the people are of view that the anchor person targeted only middle or lower middle class individuals and not upper class. So can I say high class people can walk out in skimpiest nighties or see through robes without wearing anything underneath and middle class can’t? They are not trying to understand the fact what is wrong and what is right. The concept of “allowed” and “prohibited” in Islam.

Wake up and smell the coffee. I am not saying that the anchor is a spotless creature and even I myself am not a pure individual who have never overtaken by lust or immorality, but all I am saying is that, as per Islam she did not do anything wrong. As per moral she did not do anything wrong. Just imagine that your 5 year old kid asks you “Papa/Mama what are those uncle and aunty doing over there?” How would you feel and react. How would you feel when you will be walking with your sister or mother and you come across to such sight?

Will you allow your sister or daughter to visit parks the way they did? If “Yes”! Please accept it, so that the opportunity can be enjoyed my zillions of individuals. If “No” please explain why.

For those who say “Two wrongs can not make one right” – Are they mature (or let me say Muslim) enough to distinguish between right and wrong? Get a life!

I am neither a Maya Khan’s fan; to me she looks like a man with much heavy voice nor I am an extremist Scholar of Islam. I am just a normal person who appreciates it when someone points anything wrong in my acts, personality or character. I wish we all can one day be brave and strong enough to notice what is right and what is wrong in ourselves.

Last but not the least; many would come up with one ultimate question, “What if a girl commits suicide after this?”

To them – go get the meaning of suicide. Only those people embrace it who are either filled with guilt or shame.

Islam is the complete religion amongst all. It can never guide wrong. In Islam either we have good or bad, there is not midpoint, where we can carry both in our hands.

Stay righteous and try to understand your religion – with your minds open.