Friday, November 25, 2011

Breast Cancer Support – Keep the Spirits High

I just wonder; is it really difficult to take out sometime from our busy schedules and try to listen to people who do not have any one to talk to?

Well I am writing this because a dear friend of mine wanted me to wear “Pink colored Tie” to support “Breast Cancer Day” – I simply admire her for drawing my attention towards this point. Thanks Barbie!

I then went through different web-sites on Breast Cancer – but I found this Particular One really helpful. I have a suggestion for many young guys and girls like me, to spend few minutes a week with someone who is suffering from this severe illness or even any other illness. It will have many positive after effects on you, for instance;

Ø  You will definitely realize how blessed you are – to be healthy and fit.
Ø  You will get the inner satisfaction that someone is really there, who waits for your visit every week/month on any particular day. This is an amazing feeling (try it out to experience it)
Ø  The happiness which you will cause to the person can only be seen in the teary eyes (tears of happiness) but can never be expressed in words by him or her.
Ø  The contentment level will be high. Why? You will be aware of one thing that you are making a difference in someone’s life, by brightening up his or her day.

It is definitely not difficult. All that is required is courage to say “Hello How are you feeling today?” and then the conversation will take its own pace.

Wearing pink ribbon is definitely good – but spending a few minutes with a patient will be better. This habit will definitely make you realize numerous things which you might have never thought about.

You might come across a Top-Notch Banker Excelling in her field, four years ago, but now if you will meet her you can sense the difference in her life – Don’t let this DIFFERENCE spread more.

I am not sure whether I have fully conveyed my message / feeling or not! But all I know is that! My friends and readers are far sensitive and intelligent than me.

Bless you all!!

Keep Smiling and try to be the reason of other’s smiles.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Being Stereo Type Is what Being Ethical Was (Part 1)

There was a time when wearing skirts was not considered good in 80% of the society. Even kids wearing skirts and frocks, used to be informed and educated by their adults (like aunts, grandmas and other neighbors as well) to avoid wearing clothes which show the body parts – the skin. Back in those days, we (at least most of US) were proud to be associated with a CULTURE which used to be the Traditional Clothing for every individual of any age.

Back in those days (not talking about ages ago – but in 90’s and even late 80’s) there used to be some senses alive, amongst people. Here things might get twisted for those who have simply LOST IT! Few things like adopting everything from the Street were neither a GENTLEMAN’s thing nor an ELITE and ELEGANT Woman’s act.

There are multiple kinds of individuals who have their own perceptions and point of views, but on the whole the VIEWS lack in the points (its mostly the point which they want to emphasize – right or wrong has nothing to do with that).

There is a contemporary meaning of being Stereo-type, as per my observation – in today’s life. My thoughts and observations might be considered as over-statements, talibanization or even a narrow minded approach, but in reality, as per my discussion with individuals from different age brackets, from different localities and from different statuses – I wanted to bring it out, for the rest to comment on that – with complete freedom (here freedom is expression of thought with mature and educated mind not “FREE-DOMINATION” to impose only one thing.) 

So just think about the following facts:
1.   How many guys want their sisters and mothers to be eyed by other guys – from head to toe?
Is there anyone?
2.  How many sisters want their brothers to be known as Casanovas or Boy Toys?
3.  How many fathers would appreciate their daughters to move around with guys they do not know about (especially from which family they belong?)
4.    How many husbands want their wives to be catered by the attention of their friends and official colleagues?

I don’t think anyone would ever even dream about that! (Personal perception – can differ from others way of thinking)

Why do brothers allow their sisters to wear such dresses on which they themselves will hit on any other girls – if she would have worn that?

Why don’t girls prefer to walk to the market of bus stops after wearing particular kinds of clothes and prefer to go by personal conveyance?
Do they have any guilt or fear? If they say people watch them “so who is inviting them to watch?”

Why do fathers and brothers buy the “ALL NIGHT FREE PACKAGES” for their sisters and daughters – are they really that insane – and living in “SATYA-YUG” that is “ERA of TRUTH”?

Why don’t parents visit the universities, colleges and schools anymore to know the reputation of their kids? They definitely are busy enough in their own hassles that they overlook the fact that for whom they are embracing all the hardships have taken a somewhat wrong path in their lives.

Most of the individuals call such things “Experience” and “personality building” and even “confidence gaining activities” – REALLY?

For them I only have to say “Smoking, Boozing, Child Molestation and Incest etc are also experiences – are you ready to try them all?”

Bitter – hunh?

I heard a father saying “I need daughters not MODELS walking around in my house”

I heard a brother saying (in anger) “I wish I could treat my kid sister the way she really deserves)

I heard a sister saying “I wish brother to get out of the trap of - - -”

Haven’t you heard or thought about it at all?

This thing never crossed your mind?

By stating all these facts am not trying to preach that every woman should take Abaya or does not talk with any guy, or any guy must never talk to a girl and never make a pass (after all yester year’s successful love marriages must have been initiated by making a pass. And those individuals are proud parents of today’s youth as well as grandparents of today’s infants).

What I am trying to say is that there has to respect, love, dedication and sincerity in any relationship – but not time-pass activity, lust and infatuation etc.

Why don’t we appreciate and regard the fact that while driving in front of Mosques, Churches, Temples, Schools and Houses it’s better to lower down the volume of your music player? Its ETHICAL for me – but for most its being stereotype.

I am not sure, whether people tried to get my point of view or not. But I do want most of us to think on few questions, which have been stated here.

Bless you all – keep smiling – Try to observe and weigh.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

An interesting Interview! The Code of “Con”-“Duct”

Being a decision maker is not easy at all. Trust me, its really hard to decide at times – what to do and what not – how to react and how not to – What to say and what not. There are countless such things which Decision makers go through. Though some are gifted, but those who are not definitely face a lot of troubles.

I am a Libra by Zodiac sign and mostly Librans are not quick and pro-active decision makers. At places I have to take many decisions, which are neither planned nor easier for me.

Recently I conducted interviews for the content writers for my “Earn Online 4 Pakistan” venture. I definitely needed some fresh writers and even few experienced ones. I flooded different platforms with messages and ads. I received great response, better than I ever expected. I was really surprised to receive 86 CVs in just 24 hours’ time. I was like “WOW – there is a lot of talent in this country, who is definitely getting wasted by doing nothing”. May Almighty save them all from the Freedom (of Vacancy).

After taking a gap of 2 days, I scheduled their interviews and planned my activities accordingly. Seriously I was amazed by 80% of them all. We have the crudest talent trust me. Most of the Individuals who have applied for the jobs used “Slangs” and short-hands in the interview session. Most of them were either enrolled in the Masters’ Program or have completed their Masters from some big and reputed names of our country. But none of them were able to write a single paragraph free from errors. Many guys and girls gave some amazing excuses, which I simply loved – being the Interviewer and Feed Back Provider on their master pieces. Excuses Included;
  1.      Hey bro I wrote really fast couldn’t check em all.
  2.         Sorry I am New to this
  3.         It was my first time, please sorry me.
  4.         Oh that’s my mistake – please avoid that, read next line.
I am sure these answers are worth reading, when you are conducting a serious interview and hiring individuals to make them earn 15,000 – 28,000/- PKR (initially). What I don’t get is that how have such students passed their exams? Even a student from Matriculation would have failed on such usage of language. Plus, don’t they have classes or orientations for “How to appear in interviews”? What language to use, no matter how informal the interviewer is, the candidate is supposed to be in his/her limits and show his/her best conduct. Or it might be a fact that I am old fashioned and prefer individuals with better conduct and ethics of communication.

I am still surprised about the fact that an MBA these days says that “I am new to writing Essays”. I don’t think our institutions are passing the talent out. People really lack in writing skills. After thinking about it, for like many days and even nights, the only thing which I came to realize is
  •          “BULLET CULTURE” –
  •          “To the Point answers” and finally
  •          “MCQ based Question Papers”.

These Three elements throw students away from writing the content. And when it comes to writing a decent content they terribly fail to use good words, proper grammar and appropriate sentence structuring.

I am sure every student makes reports in almost every semester, but how many of them are there who do not use the term “COPY/PASTE” while making those lengthy reports and get “A’s” from their instructors.

Where are we Standing fellows? We need a wake-up call!