10 Steps That Can Lead To Breakup - Part 1

Treating a woman as per her expectations is a “Myth”. No one knows what a woman wants. Within last few years, during my interactions with students, peers and colleagues (both males and females) I learned few pointers on the basis of which most of the guys were either dumped or slapped by their spouses. Following are the main outcomes of an exhilarating research! Enjoy and save yourself from committing them!

1. There are times when a Woman does not want Equality!

There are times when a woman demands for equality in life but if you are on date with a woman, it is never a good idea to let her enjoy the right of equality, by letting her pay her bill or half of the bill. If you are planning to break the tradition be prepared for the back firing, it can be horrible.

2. Never Drift your Mind When She Speaks

Pay attention to even the minute details of her “fluffy the kitten”, she can check your presence of mind by asking you questions regarding the color of Fluffy’s milk pot. Keep the track of the keywords.

3. Do you really want to move in together?

Never confront the idea of moving in with here until you are completely ok with letting her know about your whereabouts, cleaning and tidying the kitchen and cooking dinner for her on week days and rest of the days taking her out on dinners.

4. Never Trust on chat up lines

Never trust on the corny “Come-ons” blurted by women, they are either lies or rare. Never endanger your dignity.

5. Do you wish to watch your favorite sports match?

If you want to invite her to watch sports match with her, beware, this can lead to something very dangerous. You may end up your match with her. Remember one thing, what you love, she doesn’t.

6. Do you leave your toilet seat up?

It is definitely not a cliché, such acts of simplicity can drive women crazy. 

7. Never Bombard her with messages

A woman always enjoys to be urged and wanted by her man, but if the same man crosses the limit (which is never described by her) she is ready to come up with a simple line i.e. “We need time”. This can be an outcome of multiple SMSes or FB messages. So let her enjoy her space.

8. Pointing out Girls

Never share the details about your “Ex”, as it might fire up unwanted things in your relationship. Some secrets are worth not disclosing.

9. Sharing Password? Really?

Never on earth reveal your password in front of her. The spying instincts are part and parcel of every woman – so let her say things like, you don’t trust her or other emotional lines. If it really itches you then create a new account and share the password of that.

10. In case you love the physique of Deepika Padukone

Never ever share the secret thoughts that you have for Deepika or any other celebrity because the moment you will share, you might get to know the reality of your own personality and how you can never be compared with the ideal she had in her mind since adolescence.

These are the few points on the basis of which you can turn things down and can even stamp a breakup, so try to keep these in your mind before reacting in any of the mentioned situations.

Soon I will disclose more of the pointers to save you from getting dumped or slapped! Till then, play safe and keep your cool.

Breast Cancer Support – Keep the Spirits High

I just wonder; is it really difficult to take out sometime from our busy schedules and try to listen to people who do not have any one to talk to?

Well I am writing this because a dear friend of mine wanted me to wear “Pink colored Tie” to support “Breast Cancer Day” – I simply admire her for drawing my attention towards this point. Thanks Barbie!

I then went through different web-sites on Breast Cancer – but I found this Particular One really helpful. I have a suggestion for many young guys and girls like me, to spend few minutes a week with someone who is suffering from this severe illness or even any other illness. It will have many positive after effects on you, for instance;

Ø  You will definitely realize how blessed you are – to be healthy and fit.

Ø  You will get the inner satisfaction that someone is really there, who waits for your visit every week/month on any particular day. This is an amazing feeling (try it out to experience it)

Ø  The happiness which you will cause to the person can only be seen in the teary eyes (tears of happiness) but can never be expressed in words by him or her.

Ø  The contentment level will be high. Why? You will be aware of one thing that you are making a difference in someone’s life, by brightening up his or her day.

It is definitely not difficult. All that is required is courage to say “Hello How are you feeling today?” and then the conversation will take its own pace.

Wearing pink ribbon is definitely good – but spending a few minutes with a patient will be better. This habit will definitely make you realize numerous things which you might have never thought about.

You might come across a Top-Notch Banker Excelling in her field, four years ago, but now if you will meet her you can sense the difference in her life – Don’t let this DIFFERENCE spread more.

I am not sure whether I have fully conveyed my message / feeling or not! But all I know is that! My friends and readers are far sensitive and intelligent than me.

Bless you all!!

Keep Smiling and try to be the reason of other’s smiles.

The Unconventional “Better-Half” – A Man’s Perspective

We do know that we have a complete hold of our lives until we tie knots with someone, who promises, oaths and guarantees to be our companion of life time (at times LIE of a TIME) – to be there in thick and thin (what I love to call it as THICKLY THIN and THINLY THICK). As the life starts with this unmatched beauty, the beasts like us find it mesmerizing and enchanting. For a matter of fact it is how life is – you meet a person who is completely unknown to you and you start not just only to live with her and love and care for her too. Better say the beast transforms into ummm… somewhat Priest! Who provides almost every kind of services to his “MADAM”, cares for her, leads her in almost every step and stand there for her no matter how weak his knees get, in the presence of any other woman.

THE OLD “BUTLER-HALF”

I still remember my grandmother giving hints and tips to my female cousins how to win the hearts of their husbands and going to be ones. The main crux used to be how to cook swadisht (tasty) cuisines. No wonder they did win the hearts of their hubbies, but most of those hubbies are now suffering from heart diseases and soon it is expected that their heart decease (due to the over flow of their “butler-halves” love in the form of thick, spicy and oily curry in their veins and arteries). No second thought to the fact that these better halves are extremely good in kitchen highly smart in running the day to day house hold chores and activities.

THE EVER GREEN “BITTER-HALF”

Who says nightmare ends when you open your eyes? There are countless who still have to live with the same… in the very same territory. Most of the men are horrified and petrified though such a partner. But due to their wisdom or better say fear, they don’t take the bold step throughout their lives.  They are often known as violent, short tempered, blunt and unsophisticated by their partners. To which I say – they are simply EXPRESSIVE. They know when to throw which ball to fly one’s wicket. Yes they are nagging at times, but who isn’t? Think about your boss for a moment! About the customer who wants cent percent result of the product he purchased from you! and the land-lord of yours… If you can wear a lovely smile in front of them in their worst moods, why can’t you tolerate this creature who happened to be your one full half?J Never go on the packaging un-wrap her to be surprised. She has a lot of love care and respect for you! Trust me, it’s just the depression and frustration she faces and feels every day – remember she used to have the same sugar coated finger, which you wanted to lick always! Just give her a softer time, remind her the old days, treat her well, the way you used to… and feel the magic.

THE ULTIMATE “BUTTER-HALF”

Well this one is my favorite, she is the one who is shy, vibrant, and lovely, she has calculated moves to captivate and enchant. She knows how to dazzle. She gives her hubby all the thrills along with the chills. My canvas might get bigger on her account, but she is worth praising. She tries to obey and knows how to command also. She is the wisest amongst all; she does feel like the soft breeze at the sea-shore but she actually has a storm within her. All the men are willing to bow their heads and minds in front of her. She is – to them – a complete package of charm, beauty, obedience and thrill. Men are usually happy with such wives, but as they grow old and mature, they want their wives to grow too.

After all the discussions and jokes apart, I think a Man must always stand by the side of his woman. Give her due respect and nurture her. He must give her his best shot of love, gentleness, admiration, regard, commitment and softness. One who protects, safe guards and provides the rights of his woman definitely deserves to be known as a REAL MAN.

My “Lost” MAN FRIDAY

For those who have read the gigantic works of some classical authors, including Daniel Defoe, to them Man Friday could be character of his famous work “Robinson Crusoe” – whom he trusted with all his heart and announced loyal to him –, but its not the same, actually. (To me specifically), his (Daniel Defoe's) name itself is a classic symbol for those Practical people who are present today in the cut-throat competition based society. “De” which is a prefix used for “Reversal and Elimination or NO and “Foe” which means Rival and Enemy. I am sure my readers can easily read between the lines here. Anyways, last week I was busy with some deadlines and professional responsibilities. So after spending a quality time with my family I planned a short meeting with some old friends.

After that meeting, I concluded that, every one, from different cultural back-grounds, societal life-styles and professional fields was talking about the short-comings of some other person, either in the offices, families, friends’ circle and day to day acquaintances etc in one way or the other. For instances; people back bite at offices, to over shadow the performance of colleagues or with what ever reason they might have in the back-ground. In families also, we come across some unusual characters, who are neither happy from some one nor they want to accept any gratification from the same on any kind gesture shown to them. They are simply exploiters – in a spoiling way.

Most of us are so much into it that we ourselves don’t know what we are talking about. Like;

1. He is not a good listener.
2. He must have been cooking up something else in his mind, which is why he didn’t argue to my suggestions.
3. "He is not serious with that particular person."
4. "He is making fun of that specific person in the bright attire."
5. "He is never clear about his ideas."
6. "She does not know when to serve me the food, she does not know any thing about my timings."
7. She seems to be confused when she is around me.
8. "She can not take the directions"
   and such countless points. 

We end up making a decision that some one is not worthy to us, on the above mentioned grounds. Hello! Wake Up! Smell the Coffee!! Who in the world have given us any rights to conclude about the character of other people? Have I ever tried the following things?

1. Have I asked about the message, I just encoded? Was my audience able to understand it?
2. Why am I having any cautious thoughts about the other person, who has no arguments in response to my thoughts?  Does it mean that I am having any?!
3. On what grounds have I concluded the non-seriousness of the other person I am discussing about?
4. Its not any one else, but I my own self am pointing out some one in the brightest dress.
5. If some one is not clear about his or her thoughts, have I ever made him understand the severity of that particular matter? Have I ever provided any counseling to him?
6. Have I ever told her about the schedules and timings of the things I prefer to have?
7. Following directions, is secondary! Do we give proper directions, which are easy to understand? Do we self actualize ourselves? 

Any individual raises such issues only when he or she wants to degrade any one or give a misconception of his / her personality to others. And then we say that people are not trust-worthy, not loyal and reliable. In short we say that WE DON'T COME ACROSS MAN FRIDAYS anymore in modern world. So have we ourselves proved to be some ones’ MAN FRIDAY? By discussing all such mentioned details, can we even expect for some one trust-worthy to us?

As what I personally think, that, when we will find a MAN FRIDAY in our selves for the others, only then we can get to meet one MAN FRIDAY in our life. So, start finding your MAN FRIDAY, he is very much present in every one! The point is ARE WE STILL ACQUAINTED WITH HIM? Or WE HAVE LOST HIS TOUCH SOME WHERE?